How to Win Your Ex Boyfriend Back – Part 1, Analyze Why The Breakup Happened.

In the aftermath of most breakups there are feelings of sadness, emptiness and loss, and constantly the question, how to win your ex boyfriend back?, consumes you. You may even become obsessive and desperate, constantly thinking about what was, and what could have been. Your relationship with friends and your job performance often suffers as you try to deal with a jumble of thoughts, misgivings and emotions.

Today I’m going to reveal to you a method that will allow you to clear your mind and your emotions and begin the process of deciding if, and how, to win your ex boyfriend back.

The first thing you need to realize is that dogged persistence will not help, and may even make matters worse, especially if you’re always trying to contact your ex pleading or promising to change things that may have bugged your ex boyfriend. The cause of a broken relationship is never the fault of just one person; it’s the result of miscommunication and actions on both sides. To know how to win your ex boyfriend back you have to analyze the situation and reasons on both sides of the relationship.

Instead of terrorizing and annoying your ex, step back, take space, let the emotions settle a bit and apply a bit of cool logic – ask yourself, and write down all the reasons you can think of, why the breakup occurred. Review the other posts and stories here for clues.

By separating yourself from him you’ll not only save yourself from seeming needy or desperate, you will start him thinking – what’s happening? I was expecting her to be calling me and texting me all the time, begging and pleading for me to come back. Why would he be expecting this?  Because he’s formed some beliefs based on the many TV programs he’s seen and has, unfortunately, grown to believe as the truth. They aren’t of course, but he believes them anyway. If you carry on with your life and activities, and maintain some space from him, you will peak his interest and at the same time maintain your dignity.

Here are some questions you may want to ask yourself:

• Could I have done some things better?
• Could he have done some things better?
• Is this relationship worth my deep commitment and effort?
• Is there anyway we could have communicated better?
• Was the relationship about love, or just sex?

Don’t get stuck on what you may need to improve, consider both sides of the relationship, what would he need to improve for the relationship to be fully satisfying to you.

Most people find that writing a list with two columns (Positives and Negatives) helps immensely to clear the thinking and arrive at an informed analysis and I suggest you do the same.

In Part 2 I’ll show you how to put your new found knowledge into action and how to get your ex boyfriend back.

CAUTION: The relationship advice in this post is only a brief introduction to this important subject, and should NOT be used without the benefit of the additional, and detailed, methods and step by step plans, contained in one of the top rated relationship guides reviewed on this blog. Before you take any steps to improve your relationship, please make sure you are using the additional, and vital, information from one of these relationship guides, as failure to do so could lead to you making serious mistakes.