Will The Truth Help or Hurt Your Relationship? Part 3

In part 2 (and I’m sure in which ever e-book you chose from within the Reviews Section) you discovered how to move from confrontation to a close and intimate communication style with the love of your life.

If you’ve already put this new skill into practice you will have noticed how it takes the heat out of situation, and how understanding starts to develop.

Now I want to share with you an important additional skill that will explode your results and, in no time at all, have you where you want to be, enjoying the peace, excitement and intimacy of a close and binding love.  Adding a request.

So, what do I mean by adding a ‘request’?

When you share with your partner as I’ve outlined, it works best if you follow your statements with a request, otherwise your partner won’t understand what you want from them.

You need to think……

• Do you just want someone to listen to you?
• Are you looking for advice?
• Are you wanting a plan that will meet both your needs?
• Do you need your partner to carry out a specific action?

You need to understand that your partner NEEDS to know what you want him to know or to do.

Don’t assume, get feedback to make sure your partner has understood you so far. Maybe “What did you understand from what I’ve tried to say?”

Use your new communication skills, develop warmth between you both, confirm understanding, and then add your request.

As examples:

• “Do you think if I …………., you could …………?”
• “I love it when you …………. do you think you could ……………..”
• “I feel so proud of you when you ……………….. do you think  you ………… and I will ………..”

Do you see how you have added your request here?

Notice it’s not a demand, and it’s not just your partner who has to act, it’s the two of you working together to get something mutually beneficial.  A Win – Win for you both.

Lastly, avoid ALL BLAME, and ALL FAULTS! I’m sure your partner has plenty but harping on about them all the time isn’t conducive of a close, trusting and intimate relationship.

Let the past go and concentrate on your new communication skills, your ability to add a request, and your ability to confirm understanding and you can have anything you desire from your relationship.

Once again I’ve only been able to give you some principles, a few basic steps, and some examples, but they are a superb place to start you on the right track, and I hope they have opened up the lines to new, and more productive, ways of thinking for you.

Take these little snippets of advice I’ve been able to give you and full it out to a complete understanding and action plan it by selecting the e-book that most closely meets your situation from the Reviews Section of this site.

Study and understand it, then put it into action and be prepared for a wonderful and long lasting relationship with that incredible person you love so much.

CAUTION: The relationship advice in this post is only a brief introduction to this important subject, and should NOT be used without the benefit of the additional, and detailed, methods and step by step plans, contained in one of the top rated relationship guides reviewed on this blog. Before you take any steps to improve your relationship, please make sure you are using the additional, and vital, information from one of these relationship guides, as failure to do so could lead to you making serious mistakes.