Will The Truth Help or Hurt Your Relationship? Part 2
In Part one of this article I promised to give you a clear game plan that will bring you back the close and loving relationship you once enjoyed, so let’s get on with it.
The two vital aspects of a wonderful relationship with your spouse, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend or your ex are communications and sharing. They are somewhat similar, so we can cover both briefly with some principles and examples..
All great relationships require very open sharing… of our secrets, our fears, our worries, along with our dreams, desires, goals, wants and, most importantly, needs.
Don’t assume your partner knows. You may have heard the expression ‘Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars’ It’s true! Nether sex understands the other very well. Their perspective, priorities, beliefs, motivations and desires are miles apart.
You have to tell your partner! Actually you have to communicate and explain, listen and explain again till they understand.
Don’t make it a series of accusations; instead explain in a non confrontational manner how you feel.
- I’m disappointed because ………
- I’m sad because ………..
- I feel …….. because………
- I’m happy because …………
- I’m angry because ………..
And maybe most important.
- I love you because you …………
- You are so important to me because…….
- I love it when ……………
- Your …………. just makes me love you more and more.
- I’m so happy we found each other because …………
You may well say “Yes, but it’s easier said than done”, and that’s somewhat true.For most people this style of communication is very new to them, and you will find you need more examples and detailed reasoning than I can give you here.
You need to start by making sure you understand this communication style in full and how’s the best way, time and place to use them to get the best results.
You can find out more about these intimate, and non threatening communication styles, along with other advice on building healthy, intimate relationships, in several of the books reviewed on this site. Use the reviews to pick the one that most closely matches your particular situation.
Once again. Keep your eyes open for Part 3, where I will outline why you need to build ‘requests’ into these new communication styles you’ve discovered.
CAUTION: The relationship advice in this post is only a brief introduction to this important subject, and should NOT be used without the benefit of the additional, and detailed, methods and step by step plans, contained in one of the top rated relationship guides reviewed on this blog. Before you take any steps to improve your relationship, please make sure you are using the additional, and vital, information from one of these relationship guides, as failure to do so could lead to you making serious mistakes.
