Is This Cheating Or Not? Part 1

Wide experience has proved that surviving infidelity and coming out of it with a much stronger relationship is possible, and I feel that if others can achieve it then so can you or any other couple provided that:

1. You want it badly enough

2. You are prepared to work at it

3. You are prepared to learn how to go about doing it

4. You are prepared to act on what you learn

As a relationship coach my main objective is to get results for you.  With that in mind it’s best to warn you in advance that in this article, and in Part 2, there may be occasions when I touch on a nerve or take you out of your comfort zone!

So, let’s set the scene and get started with today’s subject which is looking into what is and what isn’t infidelity.

One of the common excuses in any relationship is ‘But I was just looking, not touching.’ or ‘We’re just really close friends!’

This shows how infidelity can be ambiguous, and this can often be more so where different cultures are concerned.

So how do you really define infidelity?

If we go by the book, infidelity is ‘the violation of any of the agreed or accepted covenants of a relationship’.

So what does that mean?

Of course different people have different ‘covenants’, however in general infidelity is any unfaithful act, which can be physical or sexual, mental or emotional.

That’s right, it’s not just physical or sexual, which may surprise you a bit!

It can appear in many different ways and show many different patterns.

Its severity can also vary, depending on the people involved in the relationship and how they see it.  Some people will treat a mere flirtation as harmless while others will see it as cheating.

Infidelity can also be defined by how long you’ve been in your relationship. If you’ve just been dating for a few days, for example, and you haven’t given each other any sign of commitment it may be acceptable for you both to see other people.

However, if you’ve been seeing each other for some time and an emotional connection has already been established, you can’t expect to flirt with or date someone else without repercussions.

(Please see Part 2 for the remainder of this article.)