Do you know what’s going on in your partner’s head?
Guest Post by Kim Cooper
http://www.narcissismcured.com
I hope that you are ready for this, but I really can’t avoid this
any longer …
If your partner runs hot and cold or is always aloof and distant,
do you wonder what they could be thinking to be so insensitive
and thoughtless?
If they are impatient and rude do you wonder how it is that
they can be so hostile and unkind?
Maybe they will tell you that you are the problem or blame
their bad moods on work or the kids, but do you really believe
that is the truth?
If they are behaving this way, the truth is that they are no longer
strongly attached (or attracted) to you. When your partner is
around you there’s something else on their mind that they would
rather be doing.
They may even cause fights as an excuse to storm out and get away
from you so they can go to that something or someone else!
Someone who is narcissistic is usually running a double life and
has never learned to trust or be strongly attached to anyone.
I would never have believed it back when my husband, Steve
and I were fighting and it took a very rude shock for me to
wake up.
I want you to think about this …
Steve had credit cards I didn’t know about and a whole side of
his life he had hidden from me and learning about this really hurt
me and sent our life into a tail spin.
I was totally unprepared when I found this out and I made many HUGE
mistakes dealing with it and went through a terrible amount of
emotional pain.
So I know first hand that finding out your partner is hiding things
from you can be terribly upsetting.
This is why I write the eBooks I do and feel so passionately about
my work. You see I don’t want you to go digging around being
suspicious of your partner and find out things that could cause
turmoil in your life until you are better prepared than I was.
I do want you out of the dark however …
Their double life might be something very different than you
imagine. I know you might worry about your partner having an
affair, but this certainly is not the only double life narcissists
can lead (although it can be one of them).
When a partner first finds out about the double life they will
usually become very emotional and then their spouse will become
angry and defensive and really there can be a lot of trouble and a
ton of emotional pain.
Please be careful too, because this can also put you in danger! In
the long run however I believe it is much more dangerous for you to
remain in the dark.
It can also be very humbling to find out that you had nothing to do
with their bad moods and their impatience and that they were really
not even thinking about you, but instead they had something or
someone else on their mind!
There are steps we offer to help you deal with this and if you
suspect that your partner might have a double life, I suggest you
work on the steps in our ebooks “Back from the Looking Glass” and
“The Love Safety Net Workbook” first before you start making moves
to find out what they are doing that you don’t know about.
Keeping yourself in the dark is dangerous and it is best that you
realize that your partner may be lying to you (in more ways than
you know) but it is also very important that you are prepared. Once
you are prepared the truth coming out will still be painful but it
can also be very empowering and give you a place to start from
where things can begin to improve.
I wish I had the chance to get strong first and know all the
secrets I know now (and that I want to share with you) before I
found out about Steve’s double life. I hope that we can help you
prepare yourself, because if you take our advice we will show you
how you can bring your partner’s love and interest back to you at
the same time as bringing yourself out of the dark and into the
light.
If you’re ready to take things to the next level, and you’re really
serious about getting this area of your life handled… and about
having total power and confidence in every relationship situation,
then you owe it to yourself to check out our introductory eBook
specials at the link below. Our eBooks are filled with specific
exercises and things that you can do right now to regain control of
your life and relationships.
The answers are not easy but if you are ready to move from failure
to success, then you have our support all the way.
Hang in there.
Kim Cooper.
Additional Resources:
Article at Squidoo: How to deal with narcissistic people and protect
yourself from their emotional and, sometimes, physical abuse.
