Today I want to touch on a subject that is often very painful to a lot of people experiencing infidelity…..

Cheating – when your spouse, partner or lover cheats on you.

If cheating (infidelity, adultery or ‘an affair’ – such sterile words) was a part of your break-up, I know how devastated, betrayed and hurt you must be feeling… Nothing feels worse than that complete betrayal of trust you feel when you discover that someone you loved, cherished and did everything for was secretly in the arms of someone else…

But here’s what I’d like tell you today… Without asking you to forgive or forget… Without suggesting that you get over it… you need to keep in mind that cheating is a consequence, not a cause.

In other words, in 95% of cases, cheating happens because of all the problems that already existed in your relationship. And to win your ex back, you need to understand what those problems are.

Let me put it this way… There’s no getting over the fact of cheating… And, very often, there’s no forgetting that ultimate act of betrayal… But the truth is, there is a lot more to the break-up than cheating – and to win your ex back, you’ll need to confront the problems that had led to them cheating on you.

I know it’s hard – and I know sometimes it just seems that there’s no way you can even sit across the table for someone who betrayed your trust so much… It consumes your mind endlessly. But it’s something you’ll just have to do to win them back.

And let me tell you something else – Something you’re absolutely going to hate me for – Sometimes, it pays to ask yourself how your actions may have led to your ex cheating…

Now, don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying it’s your fault that they cheated on you – It never is…

But what I am saying is that relationships – and break-ups – are a two-way street. Even if there is no cheating involved, a break-up is always, always a result of the mistakes you and your partner both made.

And to win your ex back, it pays to sit down and try to understand exactly what your role in the break-up was – and why it led to where it did…

In short, cheating is a terrible, painful thing… But sometimes winning your ex back means getting over what they did, and trying to forgive, if not forget… And that means standing up and owning up to what both of you did – and how you can fix it… together.

In Part 2 you will discover The 6 Vital Steps you need to know about when the horror of cheating rears its ugly head in your relationship.

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